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Many of us heard, read and/or watched The Secret: Law of Attraction by Rhonda Byrne. In short, Ms. Byrne was at a low point in her life when she read the book, “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Then Ms Byrne shared the ideology of the Law of Attraction and became rather successful using the principles. Now we are not here to discuss the principles and/or beliefs of the law of attraction but there is one idea that we would like to discuss from Napoleon Hill.
Chapter 2 Desire in the book, “Think & Grow Rich”, there is an activity on page 14. Mr. Hill talks about that merely wishing will not bring riches or help you meet whatever goal you have. Mr. Hill continued by saying, first have to have a desire, becoming obsessive about that desire, then create a plan to make it happen and be persistent until it does. Then Mr. Hill provides a formula. Here’s a summary of the formula:
Fix your mind on what you desire. And be definante on what you truly want. For example, “I want to be healthy or have a lot of money” is not clear or defined. But if you say, “I want to be 150 lbs and bring my blood pressure to a normal rate” or “I want 50 million dollars”....well that is defined and clear in what I would like to achieve.
State exactly what you are willing to do or give to achieve your desire/goal. For example, “I will hire a PT, working out 4 days a week in my home gym, I will change my diet and monitor my progressive on a weekly basis.” Or “I will start my own coaching business, providing quality education, information and services to those wanting to adopt a healthy lifestyle, through nutrition counseling, group and individual fitness opportunities and written guidance and education.”
Establish a date of completion, when you will meet the goal or desire. For example, “With 20 lbs to lose, I will lose one pound a week and it will take me approx 20 weeks-the date of completion is April 22nd.” Or “I will achieve 50 million in 4 years set date of (January of 2026).
Create your action plan and get started even before you are ready.
Write a clear, concise statement using the line items 1-4. Desired goal, what you will do or give to achieve it, date of completion and plan to achieve it.
Read your statement outload, 2 times per day, (when you awake and before you go to sleep), see/feel/believe that you already have achieved it.
Now in the professional world, this is much like a SMART goal however with the additive bonus of visualization, drawing in emotion and believing that you can accomplish it. But unlike business, this can be very personal and you will need the belief in yourself to make it happen.
I love this because as a health and fitness coach, the goal or desire of the client is a very personal one. However many have not written out the strategy or determined their “why” to make their desire a reality. At times, some relinquish control of leading the way and asking others to do it for them. For example, some clients have asked me to create a plan with little information about them personally to lose weight. As a coach, I would need to understand their medical history, physical exercise experience including habits/interest/limitations/etc, eating behaviors, their readiness for change, time, etc. And even if they supplied me with the information, The client is responsible for making this happen because I am facilitating a process. And I personally believe why some goals are not met. It was created by others.
Which got us thinking that some of us just don’t know what we want. No worries, we have a fun activity for you. Create a vision board! A vision board is a collage of images and words representing a person's wishes or goals, intended to serve as inspiration or motivation.
Here’s how to create your vision board:
Step one: Purchase or repurpose the following items:
Magazines based on your interest
A poster board (22 in x 28 in)
Step two: Start to dream or think about how you want to visualize your life in the following areas:
Health & fitness
Step three: Start to build your vision board:
Go through each magazine looking for visuals that are aligned with your goals, interest and other pics that represent you or your future state.
Tear, cut and arrange those images on your board.
Once you are happy with your arrangement or placement of the images, glue them on your board.
Step four: Reflect on your story. Questions to consider:
Were there any themes?
Which items would be a high priority to work on?
Which items would be easy to complete and which ones will be a little more complicated? Why?
Was there anything a surprise to you?
What items can you do alone and which one do you have to do with others?
Step five: Share with others and ask for support.
Give a presentation of your vision board using the responses to the questions above.
Ask for feedback and/or questions regarding your story.
Ask for support and/or assistance to make these goals happen.
Once you have the information you need, start working on the formula that Mr. Hill provided in the beginning for this blog. Join us for our next blog posting where we will discuss how to plan, prioritize and prepare for achieving success of your goal. Thank you for joining us on The Self-ish Life, now go out and live life intentionally.
Jacki's vision board:
Toby's vision board: